The Fear of Embarrassment

The moment you feel you have to change an aspect or few aspects of yourself because of someone else’s is unsatisfying judgment over them, you should know you’re letting yourself into something I like to call “fear of embarrassment”. Unknowingly we give people so much power and authority over our lives. The power for them to change us, the power to control us and what we want for our lives. This normally occurs in the years of high school where we meet different types of characters and personalities in people who force us to be people we aren’t meant to be. We then become slaves to this toxicity.

The occurrence of this feeling is very normal because every teen has the desire of acceptance of the social groups that exist around them. Many teens are afraid of rejection and we then create these fake social profiles for ourselves that become very hard to maintain because we seek to satisfy other people. everyone endeavors to be accepted we all know that but the fact that it’s a desire means that not every will have it because it’s not a right and its possible to live without it because it’s just wish, just another “want” not a “need”.

You should know that the people that actually considered famous and lucky actually have many problems they face personally which is why they create these social profiles and rank themselves at the as a way to hide from their problems sometimes. These people then think they are more important than anyone else. Instead of having the desire of being accepted by other people first accept who you are and be proud of what you have become as a teenager. we often desire other people’s approval for our own identity. As a teenager I have taught myself that:

1. People will always have and want a story to talk about and different people are used as topics. In a way people are emotionally bullied in the process and end up having issues of depression or anxiety. during the process people end up relying on changing their true identities in order to satisfy a group of classmates you might have met a few months ago or for senior students who may be leaving the school in the next few months. You shouldn't value everything people say to you because as a wise man once said "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me". Be Proud to Be You

2. Accept who you are at and what you've become because many couldn’t have been in the same situation you are today. Don't be afraid to be yourself, I personally was very much criticized for my passion and love for music but I believed I had a vision and goal that no one else could understand so there is no need for me to worry about people who are clueless about my dreams and aspirations. don't worry if people don't understand your personal goals or dreams because sometimes people are too ignorant to understand. Be Proud of What You've Become.

3. Change the aspects of your life that need the change and will have a positive effect on your life. Never change yourself with the goal in mind that you’re doing it for people because even after your struggle they may never appreciate your effort but rather become the person you will be proud of without anyone's opinion hoovering over you Become the Person You want To Become

Be Proud to Be You.

Be Proud of What You've Become.

Become the Person You want To Become

By Malachi Sunguro